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Jail time would have been cruel in this case. She will suffer enough.
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An example. On this last campout, I had a 16, 17, and 12 year old.
The 16 and 17 year old at about 9pm walked out of camp without telling me where they were going. It was close to 11pm, and the thought occurred to me, that maybe they had gone swimming in one of the lakes. The thought of one or both of them drowning flashed through my mind. So I hustled out of camp looking for them. I never did find them. They came back to camp fine and dandy. Nothing happened, but man, no one wants to live with it, if it does happen. |
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While I agree with you...I think there's a difference between neglecting a child and leaving them in a boiling car and not knowing a toddler is behind them because they can't see them when they back out or because a kid comes out of nowhere and gets hit and the parent can't stop in time.
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I would be really hesitant to make judgments about situations that I have no experience with. Life has a way of turning things around on us; if you haven't figured this out, you either haven't lived very long or you're just not very self-aware. |
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I'm with ERCoug. It is hard to hear someone's judgment when they are not yet a parent. I used to think parenting mistakes could only be made by bad parents, but I know I am not a bad parent and I have had one or two, nothing fatal but they really made me think twice about judging others. I do think her forgetfulness is horrible and tragic, but not abuse in any way. And I do think jail time would have been cruel. Sometimes things just happen. Now, I don't think those "things" should happen all the time, but they do sometimes, and she will never go a day without feeling the pain-staking guilt everyone wants her to feel.
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The thing I have learned quickly by being a parent....you dont have time anymore to worry about what everyone else is or isnt doing. Your own hands are full enough.
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To me accidentally backing over a kid you didn't see...that's an accident. A kid who leaves out the back or frontdoor while everyone is asleep...that's an accident. A kid that is left in a boiling car seat that the parent is clearly aware of......how do you categorize that?
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