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jay santos · 10-23-2008, 07:22 PM

Young BYU couple. Temple marriage. Married a year. No kids. He's had a history of off and on struggles with porn which he seems to have a handle on--apparently at least several months in the past but it's had quite a toll on her. He tells her he masturbated, and she kicks him out, threatens divorce over it.

jay santos · 10-23-2008, 07:25 PM

he has a "handle" on it. LOL. didn't catch that the first time.

ute4ever · 10-23-2008, 07:30 PM

Who what when where why huh?

Archaea · 10-23-2008, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by jay santos

Young BYU couple. Temple marriage. Married a year. No kids. He's had a history of off and on struggles with porn which he seems to have a handle on--apparently at least several months in the past but it's had quite a toll on her. He tells her he masturbated, and she kicks him out, threatens divorce over it.

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He should say good riddance. If she doesn't work with him over that, she's probably got other issues. Now I'm not excusing his behavior if the two of them decided that's unacceptable behavior but it hardly rises to the level of kicking him out, and it sounds as if she has sexual hang ups.

RC Vikings · 10-23-2008, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by jay santos

He tells her he masturbated, and she kicks him out, threatens divorce over it.

I wonder why he felt the need to tell her and that seems pretty extreme to threaten to leave over that.

ute4ever · 10-23-2008, 07:44 PM

Have they not consummated their marriage yet?
Is this one of those "ooh icky, evil, icky" situations?

UtahDan · 10-23-2008, 07:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Archaea

He should say good riddance. If she doesn't work with him over that, she's probably got other issues. Now I'm not excusing his behavior if the two of them decided that's unacceptable behavior but it hardly rises to the level of kicking him out, and it sounds as if she has sexual hang ups.

I endorse this post. How will she react when an authentic crisis arises in their lives?

TripletDaddy · 10-23-2008, 08:04 PM

Sounds like she is also tired of his porn addiction, which would be understandable. You say it has had quite a toll on her....in what way? Does he treat her poorly as a result of his viewing porn?

Hard to make a call with the limited facts, but it sounds like we all concur that there is no way that she is divorcing her husband solely because he went Onan the Barbarian once or twice.

Levin · 10-23-2008, 08:06 PM

I'm curious what the ladies among us think, but I agree with the opinions already expressed. A real overreaction that shows an emotional immaturity and emotional detachment from her new husband. Even if it was associated with pornography, it is still an overreaction -- but not one that I'll judge. It must hurt to have expectations dashed and the hopes of an ideal husband ruined. Hopefully it was just that -- an overreaction based on justifiable hurt and confusion. But if she's serious, the husband will then be better off for it.

smokymountainrain · 10-23-2008, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by TripletDaddy

we all concur that there is no way that she is divorcing her husband solely because he went Onan the Barbarian once or twice.

Or we at least agree that there is no way she should divorce him for that reason.

I'm sure there are plenty of BYU wives that wouldn't hesitate to leave for that reason.

View Poll Results: What do you think of the wife?
Normal behavior, it's his own fault	1	2.94%
Appears strange, but probably a lot more to the story	16	47.06%
Poor guy, the wife is WAY too controlling and manipulative	17	50.00%
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10-23-2008, 07:22 PM	#1
jay santos Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 6,177	Wife kicks hubby out for masturbating Young BYU couple. Temple marriage. Married a year. No kids. He's had a history of off and on struggles with porn which he seems to have a handle on--apparently at least several months in the past but it's had quite a toll on her. He tells her he masturbated, and she kicks him out, threatens divorce over it. Last edited by jay santos; 10-23-2008 at 07:25 PM.

10-23-2008, 08:04 PM	#8
TripletDaddy Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Orange County, CA Posts: 9,483	Sounds like she is also tired of his porn addiction, which would be understandable. You say it has had quite a toll on her....in what way? Does he treat her poorly as a result of his viewing porn? Hard to make a call with the limited facts, but it sounds like we all concur that there is no way that she is divorcing her husband solely because he went Onan the Barbarian once or twice. __________________ Fitter. Happier. More Productive. "Everyone is against me. Everyone is fawning for 3D's attention and defending him." -- SeattleUte

10-23-2008, 08:06 PM	#9
Levin Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 1,484	I'm curious what the ladies among us think, but I agree with the opinions already expressed. A real overreaction that shows an emotional immaturity and emotional detachment from her new husband. Even if it was associated with pornography, it is still an overreaction -- but not one that I'll judge. It must hurt to have expectations dashed and the hopes of an ideal husband ruined. Hopefully it was just that -- an overreaction based on justifiable hurt and confusion. But if she's serious, the husband will then be better off for it. __________________ "Now I say that I know the meaning of my life: 'To live for God, for my soul.' And this meaning, in spite of its clearness, is mysterious and marvelous. Such is the meaning of all existence." Levin, Anna Karenina, Part 8, Chapter 12

10-23-2008, 07:25 PM	#2
jay santos Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 6,177	he has a "handle" on it. LOL. didn't catch that the first time.

10-23-2008, 07:30 PM	#3
ute4ever I must not tell lies Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 5,103	Who what when where why huh?

10-23-2008, 07:44 PM	#6
ute4ever I must not tell lies Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 5,103	Have they not consummated their marriage yet? Is this one of those "ooh icky, evil, icky" situations?