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Fascinating theory. Tell us more.
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06-11-2007, 09:53 PM | #13 |
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Why do I feel like I'm being set up?
It's my wife's theory more than mine. We both came from extremely strict LDS famililies. She studied Child Development at BYU and was influenced there. I would probably be tougher on them at a younger age if left to my own doing. But she believes in almost no discipline under the age of 2 or 3. And then slowly adding on discipline starting about then, but much less than typical. That the concepts of being loved unconditionally are much more important than teaching discipline at that age. Our kids seem to become miraculously well behaved once they hit 4 or 5, so it seems to work for us. Knock on wood because we're just hitting the teenage years. And my theory is more that they come to you from heaven with their personalities and they're going to be who they are going to be no matter what you do to them. P.S. I probably come across to much bragging in this post that I have the key to child raising. Far from the truth. I think I'm mostly lucky I just have good kids. Last edited by jay santos; 06-11-2007 at 09:55 PM. |
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You mean what we see is natural?
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We're always in the back of the chapel as it was a quicker escape with our kids when they were toddlers.
Now that our youngest is 4, I've decided that the back is a quicker escape during a particularly boring Sacrament meeting.
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I know a family with the let kids act like kids policy. The kids are out of freaking control.
One evening I was talking to this guy in his driveway. His three year old kid had a wiffle ball bat and hit me with it on the leg. The dad didn't say a thing. Second time, nothing. Finally, on the third time, I told the kid, "will you stop that"? Again, the dad didn't say a word. Then the kid tried to hit me again. I grabbed the bat mid swing, yanked it away and chucked it across the yard. Again, nothing from the dad. I was floored. An extreme example, and I'm not saying Santos would do this, or his kids would even act this way, but there's limits to the hands-off method, IMO. |
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