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07-31-2008, 03:05 PM | #1 |
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Do you all ever feel shortchanged by your culture's insistence on early marriage
and child bearing? Do you ever feel as if you'd been robbed of some elemental and possibly necessary experiences because of the age at which so many of you married and had kids?
I'm not looking for a recounting of the joys of marriage and kids etc. I'm asking if you feel like you've missed something, despite all the good it's brought to your life, by marrying and procreating at a young age. Maybe this post is in the wrong place, but given that the acts in question spring from the church to which most of you belong I suppose it makes as much sense to put it here as anywhere else.
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07-31-2008, 03:14 PM | #2 |
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Yeah, a little bit.
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07-31-2008, 03:14 PM | #3 |
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My brother likes to joke about Mormons marrying young. He's always saying things like "Bring'em young" and "That's why we swing!"
Seriously, though, you may have hit on a major cause of the Mormon mid-life crisis. I wouldn't be surprised if it has something to do with some Mormon's use of pornography either.
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07-31-2008, 03:16 PM | #4 |
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Married at 27 and first kid at 30. I had friends get married early, have kids early and been grateful the whole time and felt like they never missed a thing. I've had friends that married early and did feel like they missed out on some fun and actually ended up divorced.
I think it all depends on if you're the type to take advantage of the single life or if you're going to mope around and be sad because you don't have anybody in your life.
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07-31-2008, 03:16 PM | #5 |
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Nope. I wish I married earlier.
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By the way, I believe that this is a cultural emphasis rather than a doctrinal one. I certainly know that there are many who have undergone tremendous hardship because they have reproduced early and often before they were out of school, though of course they wouldn't ever trade their kids. Perhaps the payoff is that they are out of the house sooner and you get to enjoy your time alone with your spouse before you are too old to do some of the things that age makes more difficult.
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07-31-2008, 03:24 PM | #8 |
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Oh man. I'm not even going get started on this thread.
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07-31-2008, 03:26 PM | #9 |
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My wife's one regret is that she wishes she could have gone to her junior prom before she was married.
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