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MikeWaters · 07-10-2012, 04:37 AM

My wife and I have a goal (my idea) to be more social with ward members. particularly since our ward is generally perceived as being socially discordant and unfriendly, or at least not particularly social.

We had a new family in mind. We finally had a free Sunday evening, and my wife gave me the green light. I was starting to get cold feet, however. Feeling lazy, rather have the time to myself and do whatever. But we ran into them on the way out of the building, and I invited them.

I don't have anything remarkable to report. Other than it was good and kinda fun. And I think they appreciated it. Particularly the stay-at-home mom/wife who would like to meet more moms and so stuff.

So that's my message recently. Get out there, be more social. Members and non-members alike. Stretch a little. Even if it isn't comfortable or easy. You'll get blessings. Which means you will bless others.

Archaea · 07-10-2012, 02:49 PM

Socializing is probably my biggest weakness.
I don't socialize within the ward, and probably won't do it in the near future. But I commend you for your efforts. Once upon a time, when I was youngish and married, I tried the same and was rewarded with friendship and communal bonding.

Now with a transient lifestyle, being out of town more than I am in town, it is hard to find the energy to socialize. Without that, one is not really part of the clan though.

MikeWaters · 07-10-2012, 03:37 PM

As a single man, you are a menace to society. Your job is to get married, and then reenter society as a respectable man.

Archaea · 07-10-2012, 03:49 PM

I have a very good relationship but the current economy is slowing down the opportunity to consummate the deal.

MikeWaters · 07-10-2012, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Archaea

I have a very good relationship but the current economy is slowing down the opportunity to consummate the deal.

what are you? Japanese? Have to be financially settled before you can be married? This is 'Merica and you don't need a Indian penny before you can do whatever you want.

Archaea · 07-11-2012, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeWaters

what are you? Japanese? Have to be financially settled before you can be married? This is 'Merica and you don't need a Indian penny before you can do whatever you want.

There is a woman formerly associated with me who believes exactly that principle.

realtall · 07-12-2012, 02:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Archaea

Socializing is probably my biggest weakness.

Same here. I keep resolving to do better but my apathy towards others keeps getting in the way.

Archaea · 07-12-2012, 03:11 AM

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Originally Posted by realtall

Same here. I keep resolving to do better but my apathy towards others keeps getting in the way.

I am interested in people for a period of time, but many people are just boring. Add to the fact that I currently a menace to society and I would prefer to socialize in my own circle, usually not those in church. We are not better just more interesting to me. I am certain I am not interesting to those in church with whom I don't socialize. So I think it is a fair deal, neither of us bother the other.

MikeWaters · 07-12-2012, 04:14 AM

In 2.5 years we have been invited over for dinner by 3 families.

However, we've not done much better than that. We may have only had 3 families over, not counting the large gathering we had where maybe 8 families came over at the same time. And the cooking interest group my wife held where the entire Relief Society was invited (but only one person showed). So we can do better. My parents always had people over. I'm trying to be more like them.

07-10-2012, 04:37 AM	#1
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	We had a family that moved in over for dinner My wife and I have a goal (my idea) to be more social with ward members. particularly since our ward is generally perceived as being socially discordant and unfriendly, or at least not particularly social. We had a new family in mind. We finally had a free Sunday evening, and my wife gave me the green light. I was starting to get cold feet, however. Feeling lazy, rather have the time to myself and do whatever. But we ran into them on the way out of the building, and I invited them. I don't have anything remarkable to report. Other than it was good and kinda fun. And I think they appreciated it. Particularly the stay-at-home mom/wife who would like to meet more moms and so stuff. So that's my message recently. Get out there, be more social. Members and non-members alike. Stretch a little. Even if it isn't comfortable or easy. You'll get blessings. Which means you will bless others.

07-10-2012, 02:49 PM	#2
Archaea Assistant to the Regional Manager Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: The Orgasmatron Posts: 24,338	Socializing is probably my biggest weakness. I don't socialize within the ward, and probably won't do it in the near future. But I commend you for your efforts. Once upon a time, when I was youngish and married, I tried the same and was rewarded with friendship and communal bonding. Now with a transient lifestyle, being out of town more than I am in town, it is hard to find the energy to socialize. Without that, one is not really part of the clan though. __________________ Ἓν οἶδα ὅτι οὐδὲν οἶδα

07-10-2012, 03:49 PM	#4
Archaea Assistant to the Regional Manager Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: The Orgasmatron Posts: 24,338	I have a very good relationship but the current economy is slowing down the opportunity to consummate the deal. __________________ Ἓν οἶδα ὅτι οὐδὲν οἶδα

07-10-2012, 03:37 PM	#3
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	As a single man, you are a menace to society. Your job is to get married, and then reenter society as a respectable man.

07-12-2012, 04:14 AM	#9
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	In 2.5 years we have been invited over for dinner by 3 families. However, we've not done much better than that. We may have only had 3 families over, not counting the large gathering we had where maybe 8 families came over at the same time. And the cooking interest group my wife held where the entire Relief Society was invited (but only one person showed). So we can do better. My parents always had people over. I'm trying to be more like them.