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Mrs. Funk · 11-02-2007, 04:21 AM

so completely retarded about major holidays? They are already offended that we can't make it home for Thanksgiving (I'm a first year law student... and will be getting ready for finals... but this is immaterial to them) and that the cheapest tickets back home we can find have us back in my hometown at 9 PM Christmas Day. My dad is throwing a hissyfit that we might miss Christmas Day, the first time I haven't been around to open presents with them.

We're broke newlyweds! What do they want? The earlier flight costs twice as much! We're not trying to break the family or say that we hate them. We're already taking a full week to spend with them. Funk is taking a week off of work so he can sleep in his in-law's basement while his wife gets criticized for being a slothful, worthless waste of skin daughter.

It's always been this way. I can never do anything right. I'm never considerate enough. I'm a big selfish oaf. I should just give up now.

il Padrino Ute · 11-02-2007, 04:35 AM

My advice:

Call your parents and tell them that you are no longer their little girl, but a married woman going to law school who is trying to start her own life with her husband.

If that doesn't work, tell them that if they want you and mpfunk there, they'll have to pay for all the travel expenses.

If that doesn't work, have mpfunk let me know your address and I'll send you one of my Christmas letters to send to your parents and you can sign it and make it from you.

YOhio · 11-02-2007, 04:43 AM

They sound controlling, but I'm sure they love you. Good luck with that.

Mrs. Funk · 11-02-2007, 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by YOhio

They sound controlling, but I'm sure they love you. Good luck with that.

I asked Mr. Funk if my parents can be controlling... and he paused... swallowed awkwardly... and replied, "Ummmm... yeah... they can be a little controlling."

Nuff said.

Mrs. Funk · 11-02-2007, 04:59 AM

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Originally Posted by il Padrino Ute

My advice:

If that doesn't work, have mpfunk let me know your address and I'll send you one of my Christmas letters to send to your parents and you can sign it and make it from you.

Hey, I think one of your Christmas letters would be a subtle, "Please go have a homoerotic experience with yourself" to my subtly controlling parents.

il Padrino Ute · 11-02-2007, 05:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Funk

Hey, I think one of your Christmas letters would be a subtle, "Please go have a homoerotic experience with yourself" to my subtly controlling parents.

I'm a bit more terse than that in my Holiday letters, but yes, something along those lines would be included.

myboynoah · 11-02-2007, 02:47 PM

Warning: Preachy Dad Post.

Wow, sounds like there is more going on there than just unhappiness over difficult holiday arrangements.

I echo YOhio's comments, they love and miss you and would like to have you there for the special times. You are their little girl after all, and will always be so. They miss that. I'm sure you love them as well.

I have no idea what has gone on, but I'm sure that responding with rancor will not help make things better. Sometimes we need to show the way. I suggest, as hard as it might be, that you simply love and respect them. That can bridge some pretty wide chasms.

If that doesn't work, then call Dr. Phil.

MikeWaters · 11-02-2007, 02:49 PM

Decide now who has the upper hand. You can choose either way, with different consequences for each choice.

K-dog · 11-02-2007, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Funk

so completely retarded about major holidays? They are already offended that we can't make it home for Thanksgiving (I'm a first year law student... and will be getting ready for finals... but this is immaterial to them) and that the cheapest tickets back home we can find have us back in my hometown at 9 PM Christmas Day. My dad is throwing a hissyfit that we might miss Christmas Day, the first time I haven't been around to open presents with them.

We're broke newlyweds! What do they want? The earlier flight costs twice as much! We're not trying to break the family or say that we hate them. We're already taking a full week to spend with them. Funk is taking a week off of work so he can sleep in his in-law's basement while his wife gets criticized for being a slothful, worthless waste of skin daughter.

It's always been this way. I can never do anything right. I'm never considerate enough. I'm a big selfish oaf. I should just give up now.

I think it is very hard for parents to be put on the sidelines in their kids lives. The older a kid is when it happens, the worse it is. I recommend explaining to your parents that you are no longer only a part of their family but now have your own family which needs to take priority. Just so you know, almost every couple has this struggle. Parents make things difficult for their married children, that is just the way of it.

Goatnapper'96 · 11-02-2007, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Funk

so completely retarded about major holidays? They are already offended that we can't make it home for Thanksgiving (I'm a first year law student... and will be getting ready for finals... but this is immaterial to them) and that the cheapest tickets back home we can find have us back in my hometown at 9 PM Christmas Day. My dad is throwing a hissyfit that we might miss Christmas Day, the first time I haven't been around to open presents with them.

We're broke newlyweds! What do they want? The earlier flight costs twice as much! We're not trying to break the family or say that we hate them. We're already taking a full week to spend with them. Funk is taking a week off of work so he can sleep in his in-law's basement while his wife gets criticized for being a slothful, worthless waste of skin daughter.

It's always been this way. I can never do anything right. I'm never considerate enough. I'm a big selfish oaf. I should just give up now.

In the words of one of America's great philsophers the DJ Jazzy Jeff:

"To the kids all across the land, there is no need to worry...Parents just don't understand!"

I stand with Noah's pop. They love you. They, just like all of us, have issues but my guess is their intentions are purely motivated.

However, I know my daughters won't marry a Ute fan, so I should show them more sympathy.

11-02-2007, 04:21 AM	#1
Mrs. Funk Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 367	Why are my parents so completely retarded about major holidays? They are already offended that we can't make it home for Thanksgiving (I'm a first year law student... and will be getting ready for finals... but this is immaterial to them) and that the cheapest tickets back home we can find have us back in my hometown at 9 PM Christmas Day. My dad is throwing a hissyfit that we might miss Christmas Day, the first time I haven't been around to open presents with them. We're broke newlyweds! What do they want? The earlier flight costs twice as much! We're not trying to break the family or say that we hate them. We're already taking a full week to spend with them. Funk is taking a week off of work so he can sleep in his in-law's basement while his wife gets criticized for being a slothful, worthless waste of skin daughter. It's always been this way. I can never do anything right. I'm never considerate enough. I'm a big selfish oaf. I should just give up now.

11-02-2007, 04:35 AM	#2
il Padrino Ute Board Pinhead Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In the basement of my house, Murray, Utah. Posts: 15,941	My advice: Call your parents and tell them that you are no longer their little girl, but a married woman going to law school who is trying to start her own life with her husband. If that doesn't work, tell them that if they want you and mpfunk there, they'll have to pay for all the travel expenses. If that doesn't work, have mpfunk let me know your address and I'll send you one of my Christmas letters to send to your parents and you can sign it and make it from you. __________________ "The beauty of baseball is not having to explain it." - Chuck Shriver "This is now the joke that stupid people laugh at." - Christopher Hitchens on IQ jokes about GWB.

11-02-2007, 02:47 PM	#7
myboynoah Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Memphis freakin' Tennessee!!!!! Posts: 4,530	Warning: Preachy Dad Post. Wow, sounds like there is more going on there than just unhappiness over difficult holiday arrangements. I echo YOhio's comments, they love and miss you and would like to have you there for the special times. You are their little girl after all, and will always be so. They miss that. I'm sure you love them as well. I have no idea what has gone on, but I'm sure that responding with rancor will not help make things better. Sometimes we need to show the way. I suggest, as hard as it might be, that you simply love and respect them. That can bridge some pretty wide chasms. If that doesn't work, then call Dr. Phil. __________________ Give 'em Hell, Cougars!!! Religion rises inevitably from our apprehension of our own death. To give meaning to meaninglessness is the endless quest of all religion. When death becomes the center of our consciousness, then religion authentically begins. Of all religions that I know, the one that most vehemently and persuasively defies and denies the reality of death is the original Mormonism of the Prophet, Seer and Revelator, Joseph Smith.

11-02-2007, 04:43 AM	#3
YOhio AKA SeattleNewt Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 7,055	They sound controlling, but I'm sure they love you. Good luck with that.

11-02-2007, 02:49 PM	#8
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	Decide now who has the upper hand. You can choose either way, with different consequences for each choice.