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[MikeWaters]

In his 30s. Never married, would like to be married. Slim pickings in our ward, and what little there is, he attempted and failed.

He tells me that our Bishop has suggested he marry a non-member. presumably bring her into the church.

I thought that was pretty awesome. I expected he would say the opposite, but he's very practically minded.

[Black Diamond Bay]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

In his 30s. Never married, would like to be married. Slim pickings in our ward, and what little there is, he attempted and failed.

He tells me that our Bishop has suggested he marry a non-member. presumably bring her into the church.

I thought that was pretty awesome. I expected he would say the opposite, but he's very practically minded.

The bishop in the 30+ ward here has advised the single sisters to start considering the option of marrying outside of the church. The men in the ward either refuse to date the sisters in the ward, are emotionally/mentally damaged, or are not temple worthy and not looking to be anytime in the forseeable future, or at least that's what he announced in Relief Society.

[Surfah]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

In his 30s. Never married, would like to be married. Slim pickings in our ward, and what little there is, he attempted and failed.

He tells me that our Bishop has suggested he marry a non-member. presumably bring her into the church.

I thought that was pretty awesome. I expected he would say the opposite, but he's very practically minded.

I have heard Bishops give this counsel before, particularly to women. I agree with you. I don't think this should be the general counsel of the Church, but in certain circumstances if someone has the opportunity to have a meaningful, happy relationship with someone when those opportunities are not present within the Church, I am all for it.

[MikeWaters]

Originally Posted by Black Diamond Bay

The bishop in the 30+ ward here has advised the single sisters to start considering the option of marrying outside of the church. The men in the ward either refuse to date the sisters in the ward, are emotionally/mentally damaged, or are not temple worthy and not looking to be anytime in the forseeable future, or at least that's what he announced in Relief Society.

What would be awesome is if the Bishop made a list of those in the ward for whom it was ok, and the ones on the list had a few traits in common.

[Indy Coug]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

In his 30s. Never married, would like to be married. Slim pickings in our ward, and what little there is, he attempted and failed.

He tells me that our Bishop has suggested he marry a non-member. presumably bring her into the church.

I thought that was pretty awesome. I expected he would say the opposite, but he's very practically minded.

Assign him as a ward missionary. Have him go on splits when the elders have a suitable candidate. Let the flames of love begin.

[Archaea]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

What would be awesome is if the Bishop made a list of those in the ward for whom it was ok, and the ones on the list had a few traits in common.

Great. Do not Date lists, and Datable Lists. I'm afraid which list I would be placed upon.

We had a single guy, who was my friend. He had money, tried to remain active and usually did his calling. He wanted to date a cute single, nonLDS woman. An LDS woman who disliked my friend, took it upon herself to disabuse the woman of any desire to date him.

So Do-not-Date lists already exist I guess.

OTOH, we had a former sexual offender within the ward, who was excommunicated, rebaptized, and then became datable. He found some girl on the internet of LDS singles stuff, married her quickly, molested her daughter and went straight to jail.

He should have been on a do not date list.

Sometimes you end up on the Do Not Date list when you shouldn't and sometimes you don't when you should.

[Requiem]

Originally Posted by Archaea

Great. Do not Date lists, and Datable Lists. I'm afraid which list I would be placed upon.

We might as well publish all the non-spoken lists that exist in wards. Post them next to the bishops offices. Think of the possibilities:

1. Candidates for next Bishop/RS President

2. Non-believers coming out of obligation

3. Part tithe payers claiming to be paid in full

4. Home/Visiting teachers making no visits in last ninety days

[SeattleUte]

What would be awsome is a Mooney or Alexander the Great style marriage ceremony in LES. That would solve all the problems. Do it every four years. Match people up by comptuer bar codes. Why not? Already LDS are going around letting the prophet tell them how many earrings to wear.