An indictment of single LDS men

[TripletDaddy]

Originally Posted by BYU71

Yea, I remember my ex saying to me one time, you like hanging out with your brother more than me.

Well lets see. He likes to, golf, go to sporting events, go boating, go pheasant hunting. He is my business partner and we work together all day.

You like to get the kids together and go to your moms.

No honey, I would much rather hang out with you.

Did you tell her all this over the phone or did you just send a text message?

[BYU71]

Originally Posted by tooblue

Sounds a lot like excuse making to me.

That is what Warren Jeffs tells all the 14 year olds too. That sounds like a lot of excuse making to me.

[tooblue]

Originally Posted by MikeWaters

Has anyone considered telling this BYU student that she should consider a mission and become a sister missionary.

Some one should assure her that being a sister missionary is not consigning herself to the bin called "too ugly or too weird". That is a lie.

I married a returned missionary.

[BYU71]

Originally Posted by TripletDaddy

Did you tell her all this over the phone or did you just send a text message?

Pre-text messaging era. No, it actually happened during the once a month ritual where I got a little. The prelude involved determining how much I loved her.

I think the relief society lesson the week before was on "even sex in marriage is a sin unless it is wholesome and proper."

[tooblue]

Originally Posted by BYU71

That is what Warren Jeffs tells all the 14 year olds too. That sounds like a lot of excuse making to me.

Some one has to take this side of the discussion -I'm willing to be the whipping boy.

All I see are a bunch of excuses. Your ex wife couldn't go golfing because her job got in the way -you know, looking after kids you convinced her to have and that you conveniently ignored in favor of REAL work and a REAL job!

[tooblue]

Originally Posted by Mormon Red Death

Will no one stick up for the college aged single LDS Male?

Lets see... you are already paying for college and are working (generally). You are only 24 but everyone expects that you should be dating every weekend. BTW on the date you always pay (refer back to the first sentence).

Is it really so bad if you decide to stay and play halo with your roomates instead of shelling out $50 on date that most likely won't get you even a makeout when she finds out that you aren't premed or prelaw?

If the women are so concerned how about they ask men out.

Namby pamby whining of the cowardly and slothfull.

[tooblue]

Originally Posted by Requiem

Since we are into stereotyping:

My guess: LDS guys are deathly afraid of rejection - refuse to take risks.

My guess: LDS guys do not know how to date - not taught at the MTC.

My guess: Arch is right - no sex, no gain, no reason for pain.

My guess: LDS guys are preconditioned to believe that there will be bells, whistles and the bright light of personal revelation when they meet their "chosen one". Therefore, why bother with dating?

My guess: Too many LDS single women come across as desperate and pious.

My guess: LDS guys are intimidated by smart, aggressive women. They want to be just like Ward Cleaver - in charge and unchallenged.

Well said.

[BYU71]

Originally Posted by tooblue

Some one has to take this side of the discussion -I'm willing to be the whipping boy.

All I see are a bunch of excuses. Your ex wife couldn't go golfing because her job got in the way -you know, looking after kids you convinced her to have and that you conveniently ignored in favor of REAL work and a REAL job!

I assume you are just guessing here unless you are the painter she went to her mothers with on week ends.

She had baby sitters, a house cleaner. Our actual fight came because she wanted to fill more fulfilled and get a full time job. I of course quoted her the bretherns stance on women working and told her no. I was willing to cut back on golf and other things in order to make things work, but she was set on having a full time job.

My therapist asked why I was so admimant about her not working. I said, because I prayed and she should stay at home and not work.

Now this is really weird, the therapist after several sessions said the work thing was just her way of breaking away from her mother control. I was the surrogate, maybe Mike can explain that. Anyway, he said when the job wasn't fulfilling enough, she would get around to me.

You know we have always gotten along. However, your one size fits all solutions just don't work in the real world.

[K-dog]

Originally Posted by tooblue

Sounds a lot like excuse making to me.

Lots of people think reasons and excuses are the same. Usually, those people don't like the implication of the reasons.

[K-dog]

Originally Posted by tooblue

Namby pamby whining of the cowardly and slothfull.

I think statements like that will really get the young men going out on dates.