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True, if he feels this way he should confront her, but what if she states she has had no previous experience. That marriage is headed for some issues. I think the Bishop is in a tough position. By the way, I think if it is fair for the church to ferret out anything that might be of future embarassment, so would an individual. Bottom line, if I were Bishop I would say, as a future leader of the church, you know any conversations I have had with your fiance are confidential. |
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Blasphemy!
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However at my age,,,,even in the LDS Culture, it's just not realistic to expect anyone I date to not have any baggage of some kind. I think anyone going in expecting a person to not have any mistakes in their past is setting ones self up for constant and repeated disapointment.
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Here's my question to you. What difference would it make if you knew? It sounds to me as though you've already made a determination that said sinner is incapable of getting past a past transgression. If that's the case, and you've already convinced yourself that he mentally couldn't get passed it, then how would you not hold it against him? How would it not impact every tough time that you faced in your marraige? I think you are refusing to aknowledge the impact of forgiveness and the atonement in people's lives...and how truly wonderful it is when someone comes out of a bad situation (such as past sexual sin) and is able to forgive themselves and move on. Why in the world would you want to make them relive that?
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That's for each individual to decide, isn't it? You can't decide that for them. Simple as that. And if you choose to decide that for a future spouse by being dishonest in any way, then you are denying the most precious thing you will have in a marriage...honesty and true intimacy. What idiot is going to hold a past history against their girlfriend? Just talk about it, make sure it won't affect the relationship negatively, and move on. It's not that hard. Every couple should do it, IMO. There doesn't have to be guilt or judgment involved. If there is, THEN you have a problem.
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