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These are the tendencies found in successful marriages, good communication, common interests, and backgrounds where one can understand each other. However identifying race or ethnicity in today's complex world makes no sense whatsoever. I see no benefit to it, and no truth to it. Common culture is helpful, and books on ABCs shows cultural conflict resulting but the advice is WRONG. It doesn't reflect what's necessary to form a successful marriage. Would you have more in common with an LDS African American girl who grew up in Utah and Texas, or a white Swedish socialist and devout atheist, who speaks not a lick of English?
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I did not marry someone of my own race, I must have been getting a slurpee during this lesson as a youth (as well as the one about keeping the sabbath day holy)
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P.S. Mrs. PAC and I would have passed all of tests, and we're in our 35th year of unspeakable connubial bliss. |
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Do you believe this is a hypothetical Kimball had in mind?
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Fortunately for me and three of my siblings, we did not heed the counsel with respect to racial background, but we did marry members of the Church. I guess my kids are the lucky ones, as they can choose to marry either a white or a hispanic member of the Church. |
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Kimball, a great prophet, was wrong on this one.
Marrying within race, whatever the hell that is, is not a predictor of connubial bliss. Communication being the number one factor and common interests and common backgrounds can contribute to communication. However, races live within the same communities and can enjoy identical cultural understandings, so the same race advice is wrong. In fact, and this is anecdotal, but in my varied experience, I've yet to see a mixed race couple that didn't have a good marriage. Perhaps we should encourage more mixed race marriages not less.
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Plus, it's hard to deny that mixed race marriages are far more accepted socially today than they were in Kimball's day.
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and did nothing.... Contrary to what some people believe it IS important for the Church to revise this. As long as it is in the manual it is going to be taught in some places. These teachings are pretty damaging IMHO.
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Just don't teach that stuff and don't have it in there. It's no longer relevant if it ever was, which I daresay was not. It focused upon the wrong aspect, and missed communication as being the key to a successful marriage.
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Proper goals and communication plus relationship skills need to be drilled into our youth, not focusing upon whether a person is Hispanic or Caucasian. It sends the wrong message and it should be changed. WE do a poor job preparing our youth for marriage and need to revise it NOW.
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