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I got a form email in return saying that it had been passed on. So right now it is me against President Kimball. Because it was Kimball who was quoted. You can guess who is going to win. There is a lot of bullshit in this church, and you have to sort through it. When you are on the losing side of the bullshit, it takes a strong person, often with a strong testimony to push through. I wouldn't give President Kimball's words a second thought. They were the product of racism, the same racism that drove him to say that Native Americans skins turn whiter when they are righteous. But thank God for President Kimball, who despite what he had been taught during his life, was able to convince the other sentient apostles (it's not clear for example how with Delbert Stapely was at the time) to end the discrimination against black men and women in the church. It ain't easy being a leader in this church, trying to sort through what is true, what is your opinion, what are your lies that comfort you. |
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“We recommend that people marry those who are of the same racial background generally, and of somewhat the same economic and social and educational background (some of those are not an absolute necessity, but preferred), and above all, the same religious background, without question” (“Marriage and Divorce,” in 1976 Devotional Speeches of the Year [Provo: Brigham Young University Press, 1977], p. 144). Interestingly, only the points below were discussed in the lesson. Why is it so important for a couple to be worthy members of the Church? Why is it important for a couple to have a similar economic, educational, and cultural background? I wonder if the first draft of the manual had a question to generate a discussion about marrying within your own racial background? While at BYU I was a sunday school teacher and I am glad I never had to discuss Pres. Kimball's quote. None of the cute white girls would have dated me. I have to agree with you Mike, such a quote does not belong in the YM manual. And the fact that the authors did not include a discussion question implies that there is no justification for such a statement. Next time I see the SP, I will mention lesson 31 to him and ask him to explain Pres. Kimball's quote. |
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I'm glad President Hinckley preached against racism among the members not too long ago. Unfortunately he didn't address on of its sources--the church. But most of these men were his friends. It will take someone who never knew that generation for the church to finally move on and own up to what it is responsible for. |
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Racisim implies that he said it solely because of skin color, etc. I don't think that's the case. In fact, I think he'd give the same counsel to a Utah boy considering marrying an Eastern European convert he met on his mission. That "generally" coming from such different backgrounds can tend to cause more stress on a marriage, which already is hard enough. Race in and of itself has nothing to do with it.
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On CB I once said that if you could decided you could never date or marry someone of a particular race, you were a racist. This was met by many howls, and I don't remember more than a couple people agreeing with me. |
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You think that somebody counseling a Caucasian not to marry a Caucasian of a different cultural / ethnic background is "racist"?
This is exactly the problem with the term.
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So let's throw out race and ethnic groups, and let's say that saying "don't marry out of your culture, or at least think twice about it" is good advice. What the hell does that mean? Almost everyone comes from a different culture. If you don't want a different culture, marry your sister. Or your cousin. OK, if you say, don't marry someone with different values than you. What does that mean? Everyone has different values, as evidenced by this board. Even Tex and Lingo's values are different. Partnerships are not composed of equals. They are composed of different people, with different values, raised in a different culture, each bringing their own strengths, which hopefully combine to make something greater than the sum of their parts. Ok, so what if we say, decide what's really important in your values, the deal-breakers, and make sure that plays a role. As in having children or not, for example. As in an open marriage or not, etc. Now we are starting to get somewhere that I can agree with. And when we are here, we are so, so far from race, that I can't even see the outline of it with my spotting scope, much less shake hands with it. |
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And for that reason, as I said, I think it was a poor choice of quotes to include.
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