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In the units I've belonged to over the last 10 years, I've seen several unwed mothers keep their babies and remained active in church. Almost all of them eventually married in the temple. There are members of my extended family that were adopted and benefitted from being raised by great parents. |
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Maybe it's just a suggestion. But that is not the interpretation given in my stake. It's not friendly advice. It is the counsel of God.
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“Every effort should be made in helping those who conceive out of wedlock to establish an eternal family relationship. When the probability of a successful marriage is unlikely, unwed parents should be encouraged to place the child for adoption, preferably through LDS [Family] Services” (“Policies and Announcements,” Ensign, Apr. 1999, 80).
I don't see what is so offensive about this. What other counsel should be given? To keep the child? There's a fair amount of info out there showing the challenges that face the children of young unwed mothers. Not just poverty, but abuse and crime play a picture. Placing such children in two parent homes greatly reduces the chances for these challenges. The Church's position seems to be the only one it can take. Ultimately the mother makes the decision, and may go against counsel, which I suspect is happening more often. My experience shows that in such cases, the ward steps up to offer what ever support and assistance it can provide, often times going fruther than I think appropriate (baby showers), but then, I have no heart.
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Ward members shouldn't have a baby shower for an unwed expectant mother?
Wow. If I were bishop, and the person wanted my advice, I would present the issues as I saw them, and say "this is your decision, think about it and pray about it. We will support you and love you, no matter what the decision is." I can't for a moment fathom myself telling a woman who had decided to keep a baby after a lot of soul-searchign that she was wrong and was going against the Lord's will, etc. |
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This is exactly the attitude I don't understand:
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I support adoption, I think it's a great thing. But heaping any sort of condemnation on a woman who keeps her child is incomprehensible to me. There but for the grace of God go I. |
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It seems like a fool's errand, but it's her choice not mine.
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