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I'll bet this girl has heard a modesty talk at least once a month since she was 12. She's chosen to take a liberal interpretation of LDS dress standards and her parents have allowed her to. There is a danger of her being offended, creeped out or annoyed that everybody is so concerned with her choice of clothing and choose not to associate herself with the church. I recommend ignoring it.
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At risk of sounding like a prude, some thoughts:
The young woman needs some friendly advice on appropriate attire, which in the long run will serve her very well in life. Who should do it? Certainly not you or any other male (heaven forbid you involve the Bishop). I suggest you talk to your wife for advice on who might be the best person to address this problem. I suspect the YW Presidency might be a good start, and it doesn't need to be a direct one-on-one discussion, but could be made part of a lesson or such. In our office last year we had an intern who dressed in a similar fashion: daily cleavage, short skirts, etc. A very nice, attractrive, and sincere young lady, worked fairly professionally. Her dress was just more appropriate for a night club and picking up guys, not something for a professional office where contact with clients was a possibility. I thought something needed to be said for two reasons: 1. Our image was at stake 2. Her image was at stake; in other words, she needed to understand for her own professional development that the way she dressed would not serve her well. I raised this with my boss who agreed but punted. He'd had similar experience in the past and the woman took great exception; it didn't turn out well. The solution was to do nothing; she would leave soon and the problem would go away. Then a few days later a professional woman in a neighboring office came to us with the same concern and wanted to know what we were going to do about it. Seeing our reticence to address the young lady directly, she volunteered to do so, and things got better. She also sent us the following article that makes a lot of sense: A cleavage of views - pornification of the workplace Gee, how surprising, modesty isn't just a Mormon thing.
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I must say, though, that if you think this is bad, I devoloped the self-control of steel over the 4 years of teaching short skirts on the front row at UNC. While at first they were quite scandalous to me, it wasn't even a distraction after a few years. And personally I think this shift had more to do with a healthier attitude about women and sexuality than it did about acquiring a resistance to "sin", "immodesty" or the like. |
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"Immodest clothing includes short shorts, tight pants, and other revealing attire. Young women should refrain from wearing off-the-shoulder, low-cut, or revealing clothes. Young men should similarly maintain modesty in their dress. All should avoid tight fitting or revealing clothes and extremes in clothing and appearance." The brethren are way off base? I'm also against the idea of "lowering the bar" and not expecting as much from our youth. |
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