12-28-2007, 10:49 PM | #11 |
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For the record Friend A is my best friend, and friend A is not perfect, does not have a spotless past, and has dated many men with and without a tr. She is currently married to a man who does not have a spotless past. She has been telling me for years that marriage is hard, and it takes work, and when things get rough you want to be know that you have a spouse who keeps covenants and will stay and work through things, not someone who throws in the towell when the hard times come. Let me just be very clear that we are not the discussing the opinions of a self-righteous, unforgiving, judgmental woman.
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It's also likely that Friend A has a more skewed and narrow view of The Atonement than most regardless of whether they have a shady history. Yuck.
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I would say that it depends on the proximity of marriage in the relationship.
If a date is solely for the purpose of social interaction, the date need not even be a member of the church-- just somebody you'd get along with and have fun with. When narrowing the field, they ought to be fairly active, if not card-carrying. Once you are asking the terrible question "Should I marry this person or not," not only ought they to carry a recommend, but they should also have given sufficient demonstration that they have what it takes to make a marriage last for eternity. Incidentally, if you were to gloss over a few details, I would say that I've dated both Friend A and B. I had suspected things wouldn't work out with Friend A well before they didn't, and I am still dating Friend B. Not a coincidence.
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Just because someone has a TR does not mean that he/she is a good person who is living right, or is worthy to use it. It's not difficult to figure out what the correct answers are to the questions in the interview, and tell the bishop what he wants to hear. Meanwhile the person who let his TR expire may actually have more integrity than the other.
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