Why Jefe has punished many of us.

[SoonerCoug]

Originally Posted by BYUruss

Do you know this lady?

I'd prefer something a little more like BYU71's avatar, thanks.

[BYU71]

Originally Posted by SoonerCoug

I'd prefer something a little more like BYU71's avatar, thanks.

I know of people who truly prefer his avatar to mine. You see in their minds my avatar is pornography.

I wonder if people like that are posting from the Warren Jeff's compound.

[DrumNFeather]

Originally Posted by BYUruss

Do you know this lady?

She is a cold spoon.

[Black Diamond Bay]

Originally Posted by nikuman

The correct answer is three fold - first, the discussions that happen here are nothing like the discussions that happen with spouses (those are separate issues). I don't talk about my sexual relationship with my wife in detail, but I certainly will talk with other men and women about other topics, such as contraceptives, lubricants, post-pregnancy droughts, personal thoughts on theology as it pertains to certain sexual behaviors, etc.

Second, the idea is not that you participate in such discussions (you are welcome to if you choose, although I think there is some wisdom in a single women not indulging in sexual banter with unknown cyber-men) but that this is a place where some such discussion will take place. I, for the most part, do not take part in them either. Sometimes they make me uncomfortable. I am willing to put up with such discomfort because I believe that the other benefits I get from a site governed by self restraint is better than a site governed by censorship.

Third, at some point you'll have to figure all of this sex stuff out with your husband. The church is SILENT on permitted sexual behavior between couples at this time - at least according to the handbook I have, which is last year's edition. Is oral sex permissable? Hand jobs? Lingerie? Other things? The answer is largely, from an orthodox believer's point of view, "we aren't instructed." "Other things", of course, is a very large category and figuring out what you are comfortable with, personally and spiritually, is a journey that takes many years and that I am not sure I have completed yet. These conversations, if one is not fully prepared, are far more difficult and uncomfortable than watching a bunch of guys talk about masturbation. In these matters, I appreciate knowing that I could, say, turn to Archaea and say, "what are your thoughts on X?" - not so he would instruct me, but so I could hear a viewpoint and figure out what mine is as a result. I may not always agree with the delivery, but the process is invaluable.

I think you all are missing the point.

I do not come busting into those conversations and demand that they stop. If you all want to have these discussions I'm not going to pass judgment on you, and I'm not going to freak out about it. I just avoid those threads.

That being said, I am a single woman, and I do not feel any need to be contemplating what sexual acts are within my comfort zone at this point in time. Furthermore I don't think it advisable or appropriate to be contemplating those issues online with a bunch of married men, or a single man whose older than my own father. Therefore I request that a little bit of consideration be shown, in that you similarly not pass judgment on me for refraining to participate in those conversations, and preferrably dedicate a separate thread to the topic. Is that really an unreasonable request? Not to mention the work filter usually blocks the thread anyway, and then even if the conversation does work it's way back to the original topic I'm unable to participate after that.

I also appreciate the Guard, that's why I'm here. What I do not appreciate is the apparent belief that it's okay to pass judgment on me for feeling awkward about those conversations. Just leave me out of it. If you want to have some conversations about what I think is and isn't appropriate during a makeout fine, I'll have that discussion with you, but I doubt it's of any interest.

You are right, the conversations here have never approached things I've heard repeated from a boys high school locker room. I was exaggerating, my apologies for that.

[Goatnapper'96]

and look what I miss.

[Goatnapper'96]

Originally Posted by Goatnapper'96

and look what I miss.

I take it back, I made it through the first six pages and it was a bunch of grown men pulling string about Steve's gay rules. His rules are gay, he knows we feel that way. But it is his board to run as pleases him, who gives a shit? Take your "suspension" from him or his uptight mods, mock the process and the rules committee and the ridiculous efforts he goes through to make his message board legitimate, agree to something you know you are going to break again and post away until he kicks you off again. Then repeat process. Some make this out to be some sort of frustrated Mormon Utah County chance for civil dissobedience and the opportunity to protest.

Can somebody tell me which page the "oil changing" and various other double entendres start? That stuff makes me laugh, grown men whining about Steve's gay rules doesn't so much. I really just want to laugh, so will somebody help a brother out.

[BYU71]

Originally Posted by Goatnapper'96

and look what I miss.

Thank the lord for telephones and computers. I get to do both at the same time.

It can cause a problem though. The other day I am immersed in a conversation on here and hit the wrong button. Oh, oh. $9,000 trade error and I am required to pay it all.

However, I reminded the manager I am a free agent and he split it with me, nice guy. If he had known what caused the error though he might not have been so understanding.

[BYUruss]

Originally Posted by Goatnapper'96

I take it back, I made it through the first six pages and it was a bunch of grown men pulling string about Steve's gay rules. His rules are gay, he knows we feel that way. But it is his board to run as pleases him, who gives a shit? Take your "suspension" from him or his uptight mods, mock the process and the rules committee and the ridiculous efforts he goes through to make his message board legitimate, agree to something you know you are going to break again and post away until he kicks you off again. Then repeat process. Some make this out to be some sort of frustrated Mormon Utah County chance for civil dissobedience and the opportunity to protest.

Can somebody tell me which page the "oil changing" and various other double entendres start? That stuff makes me laugh, grown men whining about Steve's gay rules doesn't so much. I really just want to laugh, so will somebody help a brother out.

His name is steve?

[TripletDaddy]

Originally Posted by Goatnapper'96

Can somebody tell me which page the "oil changing" and various other double entendres start? That stuff makes me laugh, grown men whining about Steve's gay rules doesn't so much. I really just want to laugh, so will somebody help a brother out.

http://www.cougarboard.com/noframes/...tml?id=3095371

[Black Diamond Bay]

Originally Posted by BYU71

Stange men? We have known each other for 5-6 years. Heck I can go to some web site and see your face. Now I am old and don't understand you young folks, but to me that is a hell of a lot stranger than talking about sex with board names in a chat room.

If one of these strangers starts stalking you or boardmailing nasty suggestions, call them out. They are sicko's and should be kicked off the board. Otherwise, well otherwise.

There is no one on here that I would venture to say knows anything about me beyond what I have chosen to share, and although I'll share all kinds of dating stories, and talk about my roommates, my job, or the latest girl drama, I believe I am relatively careful about keeping topics that are of the most importance to me private. I don't post about the people I dated that I liked dating, and was sorry to see things not work out. I don't get on here and explain to you why they didn't. I don't talk about the dates I go on that were good, just the ones that were weird, I don't tell you about the roommates that didn't create drama, I don't comment on my job beyond the stories about coworkers.

How many of you know what the issues are with my sister and fbil?
Who here knows anything about my relationship with my family, immediate and/or extended?
How many of you know why my last relationship fell apart, or know anything about the guy?
Does anyone here think they know what I struggle with spiritually?
Anyone know what I do for work?
Somebody think they know what my three biggest worries have been over the last month?
Who here thinks they know what kind of a guys I like to date, want to marry?
What are my weaknesses? What are my strengths?

Okay, there is one poster on here that might be able to answer most of these questions. Seriously, do you really think you know me? Most of my online conversations are very supericial.