07-02-2007, 05:27 PM | #1 |
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Inconsistent Application of Church Discipline - Why?
I am perplexed today as a result of discussing with two close friends their vastly different experiences with Church Discipline. I come to CG for some hopefully thoughtful responses.
Allow me to elaborate: Sisters X and Y, both RM's, recently met with their respective Bishops to sincerely confess their sins. Sister X related a single incident of intercourse with an Elder in her singles ward - also an RM. Her Bishop said that, given the circumstances and her repentant attitude, there was no need to convene a Disciplinary Council and that both parties would simply be placed on an "informal probation", meet regularly with the Bishop, and would have no changes in their status as recommend holders. Sister X came away from the experience feeling great hope and with a resolve not to repeat the behavior. Sister Y confessed to her Bishop several incidents of "petting". She was subjected to a Bishops Disciplinary Council, placed on formal probation for six months and came away with a broken heart. She was required to surrender her recommend, told she could not pray, speak or even play the organ in a church meeting. She is disconsolate and embarassed to the point where she questions ever returning to full activity. She has not lost her testimony, only her faith in her Bishop. So, given these vastly different outcomes, why are some Bishops so much more forgiving and tolerant than others? Aren't they being more Christ like in their behaviors? How do I respond to these friends? |
07-02-2007, 05:30 PM | #2 |
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maybe because the Lord directed each Bishop to act in this way.
If she is despondent and pridefully thinking of leaving the church, who is to say that a milder course would have been appropriate? Maybe this is just the thing that she needs. |
07-02-2007, 05:31 PM | #3 |
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Undoubtedly different people will arrive at different judgements, but I think it's also fair to say that we don't know the totality of the information these men had when they rendered their judgement.
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07-02-2007, 05:36 PM | #5 |
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Don't you think Bishops are susceptible to their own biases and attitudes? Sister Y resides in a "home" (i.e. non-single) ward and her Bishop is known as a strictly "by the book" and very fundamental person. Is it possible that Bishops in singles wards are more forgiving because they hear more confessions regarding sexual sins?
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07-02-2007, 05:39 PM | #6 |
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I believe that personal bias can enter. Doesn't mean every discrepancy is because of personal bias.
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07-02-2007, 05:39 PM | #7 |
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It's very hard to judge these specific situations, since obviously none of us knows exactly what their conversations went like (or what the Spirit may have indicated), and we're already dealing with 3rd-hand information.
But speaking generally, Bishops are just men (and there's what, 20,000 of them now?) and some take a more serious line than others. My best advice to your friend would be to reassure her that the Lord knows who she is, and what her circumstances are. If he placed her at this time with this Bishop during this trial, he must have had some purpose in it. I would advise her to humble herself and follow his instructions, even if she feels she's being unjustly dealt with. As a side note: one of the problems we've had in singles wards in the past is "Bishop shopping" ... where a person needing confession will bounce around from Bishop to Bishop until they find someone whose approach mirrors what they want. My experience is that this does not usually help the person overcome the sin.
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I have a lot of data points on this, and this is one of the things I have energy about. I think the church discipline system is: a. totally inconsistent b. totally punishing to anyone who tries to fight it or feels like they were slighted c. very Pharisee like and very un New Testament/BOM like d. causes a lot of unnecessary pain and causes many people to leave the church or stay inactive e. something I believe will get completely overhauled over the next 50 years f. Matthew 23:13 applies |
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07-02-2007, 05:45 PM | #9 |
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My dad made an interesting comment to me: he says some Bishops don't convence a council when they really should, because it is unpleasant.
I don't think there are many Bishops who are doing this because they like it. Missions are a good example--we know some mission presidents tend to send elders home for what another mission president might not. God will sort it out. |
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