Question regarding church discipline

[SoonerCoug]

Originally Posted by jay santos

Serious question. Do you feel like your parents telling you to lie on those questions and you lying on those questions (if you did) hurt your outlook on the church or your spirituality in general? This is something I'm facing as my kids get older and I am leaning towards an approach like your parents.

I guess it depends on one's definition of "spirituality."

Personally, I think the guilt that teenagers feel when they aren't taught to be philosophical is much more spiritually damaging than my family's approach to these issues.

My dad always said: "It's normal for adolescent males to masturbate. But it can become a problem as well, if it's taken to an extreme. You shouldn't feel guilty about it, and if you ever have any kind of problem, I'd want you to feel comfortable enough to come talk to me about it first."