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BTW, it has nothing to do with 'calling out'. On the contrary, I hope that my words here (and, now that I know this is going on, anyone I meet in person) will help them better understand that they SHOULD NOT feel bad in any way if they don't perfectly fit the mold. |
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All right, guys. It's been fun. But I've got to go work on shaping my womanly identity in the church and get my studying done.
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SoCal says: "After months of discussions, I've come to the conclusion that if you can't see the potential misinterpretation of Sister Beck's talk, you're either stupid or hopelessly self-centered. I think the message that I believe was intended is well-meaning and appropriate. I think the delivery was unfortunate." |
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My brother told me once he was in class, gospel doctrine I think. He is married to a Philipino and a couple also in the class was male black feemale white. Somehow the teacher got going and went off on how we shouldn't be marrying interculturally or interracially. I actually told my brother I didn't believe him. I asked his wife who doesn't tell stories and she confirmed it. I wonder if anyone else in the class thought a thing of it. |
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I'm certainly not arguing that the language & delivery of the talk could not have been clearer. Obviously, many people seem to have read the exclusionist theory into her talk. If she had it to do over again, I would hope that she would make it clearer that her talk was directed towards a specific group, and not meant as the only path to 'good motherhood'. Still, I will argue this point as long as it's brought up - her talk was NOT EXCLUSIONARY. |
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Ok...let me suggest one set of "disenfranchised" people that Sister Beck's talk did help.
My wife had a bachelor's degree and a job when we met. We got married, had a surprise child early on and she decided to quit her job and be a mother full-time. Wasn't the original plan, but that's how it worked out. We now have three kids and are fortunate enough to survive on my income. I now find myself defending her decision to my colleagues (male and female) who often automatically assume that since my wife is at home, she's a "gold-digger" with no talents of her own, or that I'm a sexist who likes his woman barefoot and pregnant. Why should I have to defend her commitment to a pursuit that we both believe is the highest either one of us could participate in? Maybe that's why I'm not offended at Sister Beck's talk. I took it as a reaffirmation that raising children is the highest calling either I or my wife can have. How we do it is up to us. |
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