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SteelBlue · 02-27-2008, 03:41 AM

One of my closest friends growing up "came out" after he returned from his mission. It was one of the great shocks of my life to learn he'd been struggling with those feelings since he was a young child.

myboynoah · 02-27-2008, 03:55 AM

I have absolutely no idea.

YOhio · 02-27-2008, 04:03 AM

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Originally Posted by myboynoah

I have absolutely no idea.

I'm in the same boat. My gaydar is awful. A couple of years ago I was at a social gathering with my wife and chatted with one dude for most of the night. The next day my wife's co-worker said he thought I was flirting with him. I didn't know he was gay. We talked about sports!

MikeWaters · 02-27-2008, 04:09 AM

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Originally Posted by YOhio

I'm in the same boat. My gaydar is awful. A couple of years ago I was at a social gathering with my wife and chatted with one dude for most of the night. The next day my wife's co-worker said he thought I was flirting with him. I didn't know he was gay. We talked about sports!

Someone on this board is very happy it didn't work out between you and him. His name is Utestar.

YOhio · 02-27-2008, 04:17 AM

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Originally Posted by MikeWaters

Someone on this board is very happy it didn't work out between you and him. His name is Utestar.

Ah, from your lips to God's ears.

Spaz · 02-27-2008, 01:34 PM

I have a close friend who's father decided he was gay. That was a very trying period in her life.

MikeWaters · 02-27-2008, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Spaz

I have a close friend who's father decided he was gay. That was a very trying period in her life.

I think you mean "chose to be gay".

Spaz · 02-27-2008, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeWaters

I think you mean "chose to be gay".

No clue. I phrased it the way I did intentionally. I don't want to give out specifics, as it's a rather private matter, and several people know exactly who 'spaz' is, and it's not my place to share details.

Suffice it to say that the guy was happily married for well over 20 years, and never considered himself gay. Suddenly, he meets someone, and over a few years is slowly convinced that he is gay.

Whether or not he actually was gay, and was 'brought to the light', or whether he was not, and was misled into choosing to be gay doesn't much matter, IMO.

Tex · 02-27-2008, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Spaz

No clue. I phrased it the way I did intentionally. I don't want to give out specifics, as it's a rather private matter, and several people know exactly who 'spaz' is, and it's not my place to share details.

Suffice it to say that the guy was happily married for well over 20 years, and never considered himself gay. Suddenly, he meets someone, and over a few years is slowly convinced that he is gay.

Whether or not he actually was gay, and was 'brought to the light', or whether he was not, and was misled into choosing to be gay doesn't much matter, IMO.

Don't frustrate Mike's attempt to force this into a binary issue, Spaz. Diversity just complicates things.

Choice or no choice? That is the question!

MikeWaters · 02-27-2008, 02:40 PM

That's a serious man-crush, to suddenly choose to pack fudge.

I'm sure it was a conscious choice, like deciding chocolate is your favorite, instead of vanilla.

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02-27-2008, 03:55 AM	#42
myboynoah Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Memphis freakin' Tennessee!!!!! Posts: 4,530	I have absolutely no idea. __________________ Give 'em Hell, Cougars!!! Religion rises inevitably from our apprehension of our own death. To give meaning to meaninglessness is the endless quest of all religion. When death becomes the center of our consciousness, then religion authentically begins. Of all religions that I know, the one that most vehemently and persuasively defies and denies the reality of death is the original Mormonism of the Prophet, Seer and Revelator, Joseph Smith.

02-27-2008, 03:41 AM	#41
SteelBlue Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Norcal Posts: 5,821	One of my closest friends growing up "came out" after he returned from his mission. It was one of the great shocks of my life to learn he'd been struggling with those feelings since he was a young child.

02-27-2008, 01:34 PM	#46
Spaz Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 1,371	I have a close friend who's father decided he was gay. That was a very trying period in her life.

02-27-2008, 02:40 PM	#50
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	That's a serious man-crush, to suddenly choose to pack fudge. I'm sure it was a conscious choice, like deciding chocolate is your favorite, instead of vanilla.