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05-07-2006, 11:42 PM | #1 |
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OK... now it's time for me to post about my dating problem.
This girl that I had over for dinner on Thursday was really giving me alot of signals, she was obviously very interested in me... she kept getting closer and closer to me throughout the evening, until after dinner she suggested that we watch a movie. She picked a scary movie, of course, and then proceeded to snuggle up to me throughout the movie. I figured there was nothing to lose, so I held her hand, cuddled back, etc.
I haven't seen her since Thursday... she worked Friday evening and all afternoon/evening today, and yesterday she had a course she attended all day. So I'm supposed to see her again tomorrow night. Here's the thing: I don't think I'm ready to commit to a relationship with her yet. It really caught me off guard, this whole thing, and I really am not ready for a commitment to her yet. I would like to keep going out with her, but I just don't want to date her exclusively yet. I figure that tomorrow night I'll tell her just that, that I want to keep going out with her, but that I need to slow it down and not date her exclusively yet. When it comes down to it, there are other people that I'd like to be going with right now. With that in mind, the worst thing I could do would be to drag it on. Your thoughts?
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Just out of curiosity, for people who post this kind of stuff either here or on CB, do you also ask people not part of the boards for advice?
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At times like this I like to ask myself... WWjD do (little j for jimmy my former roommate):
Go out with her on Monday and become uncomfortable every time she tries to get close. Spend the night avoiding the subject until much later. Make out with her and then tell her that you're moving way too fast. Apologize profusly for "leading her on" and then tell her how much you respect her and want to continue dating but at a much "slower" pace. I find that the farther I deviate from the Jimmy plan, the better off I'll be. The WWjD strategy worked for me. How else would I have gotten Mrs. Hippie to marry me.
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What happened to the other girl you were dating? the one you broke up with then got back together?
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I agree with Lingo. No sense in telling her anything on a 2nd date.
Plenty of people hold hands, cuddle, kiss etc. on a first date. There are other ways to send signals that you are not wanting to be exclusive without saying so. Like not taking it to the next level. Like not calling back promptly. Like skipping a weekend. etc. |
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