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08-09-2008, 05:13 AM | #2 | |
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Thanks for posting that. I think the Des News has come a long way. Not too many years ago, an in-depth article on a topic such as that would have been unthinkable.
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08-09-2008, 12:51 PM | #3 | |
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I find it pretty interesting how many of these objections to Beck's talk are rooted in the individual's perceived differences with a generalized statement. It's a complicated issue, to be sure, and I'll never be a mother or deal directly with the pressures of life, career, motherhood, and church (although as a husband and a father I deal indirectly with them all the time). But it's okay to have individual experiences that deviate from a generalized ideal (at least, I think so). I imagine the tension emerges in that gray area where a bunch of individuals becomes anything like a perceived collective experience or identity. Essentially, everyone must be self-referential here, and most people want the actions that they undertook in good conscience ratified by authority. Everyone seems to want the guy or gal in charge to back them up, even if their experience in reality is quite different from the norm. It's ultimately a quite selfish and self-centered approach. I can't see how this will be resolved.
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I think if I would have heard this talk while it was happening (I only learned about it in the crazy aftermath), I still would have been confused. Maybe not totally offended, but certainly thoughtful, and maybe even saddened. I joined the Church when I was 17, and ended up getting pregnant, having, and keeping my daughter at 22. I attended my local singles ward (even with the obvious Scarlet Letter across my growing belly). And was actively involved in church and the repentance process - but still struggling to find my place in the "map of motherhood" later outlined by Sister Beck. I have to admit, although my ward was more than understanding and loving (which I feel is a direct result of geography - i.e. McMinnville, OR vs. Provo, UT) now that I am married in the temple and Surfah and I were both sealed to OUR daughter on that day, I do feel more accepted just because I remedied my situation with the "right" medicine: marriage/stay-at-home mom serum. I often wonder if I was still a working single mother active in the church how I would feel about my role, or lack thereof. I feel for the women in this place- those who don't fit perfectly into the "map of motherhood", because I have been there.
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08-09-2008, 09:41 PM | #5 |
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And I think I would have felt the same if Monson or Hinckley had given that talk. It's important to address paths that stray from the formula, and I think in this case those paths weren't focused on enough.
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She gave a talk yesterday about the parable of the lost sheep. One of the points she wanted to make in the talk was that the lost sheep needed help and support, and not judgment. Her comment to me (but she didn't want to include it in her talk) was that she did not feel support from the ward, and essentially had to go through it all alone. Fortunately she had a wonderful bishop and supportive family. But the ward as a whole was much less supportive. We're actually still in the ward, and it's a great ward (somehow marrying a divorced guy helped her stock), so we can't say that it's an unusually unsupportive or judgmental ward. I think the church is a church of the majority - the unconventional and the unusual are not sought out, I think, by the church as an organization, in the absence of an assurance of conformity.
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Pray tell...what is the rest of the story? I didn't realize you, Grapevine, and Toscano were so tight...
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