06-10-2009, 11:43 PM | #1 |
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A single mom
Say an LDS couple get divorced, and right after they split, the woman discovers that she is pregnant with their first.
Does the church counsel of giving the baby up for adoption apply? This is that situation a relative is in. And she decided to give the baby up. But I'm wondering if she is going to follow through. She's had the baby, but still has possession of the baby. I wonder if she feels pressure to give it up, with a family already lined up to adopt. Or pressure from church counsel. Tough situation. I know she really cares about this baby. |
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06-12-2009, 12:04 AM | #3 |
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Me too. I'd probably say a lot of, "I don't know, have you prayed about it?"
Many people (not just in the church) want to be told what to do by professionals. These people really hate "I don't know." "Studies to date have not provided that answer." "No medicine in this class has been shown to be superior to another." They really like the people who say "This pill is great and works miracles in my patients." Perhaps the certainty (i.e. the mullah-ishness) is part of the cure. |
06-15-2009, 03:55 PM | #4 |
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what's the dividing line here? Is someone suggesting that the child is somehow illegitimate because the parents will be divorcing? If the father had died in a car accident, would she be counseled to give the baby up so she's not a single parent?
I'm honestly not even sure how much young, pg women are counseled to give up their babies. Is your relative being told to do this? Or maybe she feels this on her own? I don't know--as hard as it would be to be a single mother, in some ways I imagine giving a baby up would be so much harder. |
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My wife was so turned off by how LDS SS dealt with her sister that she insists we won't use them if we ever choose to adopt.
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I wonder, can you have and open adoption through LDSSS? If I were ever involved in an adoption on either end, I think I would want it to be open. |
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