07-10-2007, 04:14 PM | #1 |
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about sexual abuse in the church
obviously over the years there has been increasing concern.
Recent policy that men can't teach primary classes alone. I'm very strict about the rules in scouts, no leaders and kids in tents, etc. Two-deep. I explained to my asst. scoutmaster--one accusation can destroy your life. You have to be very careful. So it cuts both ways. SoonerCoug is afraid of his leaders interacting with his kids, and I can assure you, if the leaders have any whiff of your line of thinking, they will steer as far away from your kids as possible. They will want nothing to do with them for fear of a crazy parent making an accusation. We have one kid in our ward who is unfortunately inactive, and has been for a long time, but if he ever comes back, I can assure you that I will be quadrupuling all my measures, accounting for all time, etc. Mom is crazy. The wolves are not in abundance, but they are frequent enough to be on guard a bit. But it can also be overdone. |
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But church related functions have never been much of a concern. Our ward's pretty good about two deep leadership and the group of kids always seem large enough to be safe. |
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07-10-2007, 04:40 PM | #3 |
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Am I a bit concerned yes?
Am I overly cautious moreso than I would have been twenty years ago? I dunno. I have taught my children to defend themselves, to speak up and to avoid trobule, but I do not know how I'd behave if it happened to my kid. We had a family in our ward who was abused by his sixteen year old cousin. Both he and the cousin were sent to counseling. The cousin later distraught over many things including the ostrasization he received as a result committed suicide. It was a horrible incident that cascaded into something worse.
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07-10-2007, 04:42 PM | #4 |
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People who discover that they are gay sometimes kill themselves. Imagine how much worse it would be to discover that only children can bring you sexual arousal.
I imagine that was a big part of the suicide. |
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I just think the detailed questioning is a little unnecessary, but I would never confront a bishop and tell him what questions are appropriate and what aren't. I go along with the system.
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You probably know the Church counsel, as do I. I even know the lawyer partially responsible for adopting many of the new protocols concerning this activity. The Church is very concerned about making certain it does all it can to prevent while observing other concerns. And as Mike points out, given the horrible effect any allegation can make, a leader needs to be on guard, because the children and their parents are your potential worst nightmares.
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Here is what we know beyond any reasonable doubt: 1. Family accuses bishop of molesting child. 2. Allegations are ignored. 3. Family goes to media. 4. Family is excommunicated. (Based on these four facts, the family could be completely wrong.) 5. Accused bishop is arrested for "indecent exposure" without describing his behavior in detail. (Fact 5 suggests that the bishop was indeed a perv, and therefore lends credibility to the accusations.) 6. Bishop registers as a sex offender and leaves the state. Nevertheless, he sent me a beautiful wedding present. It still gets lots of use. I think these facts support the family's side of the story.
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And this was at the time when the Church was revising its protocols, which it now has firmly in place. I believe such extenuating circumstances would result in the case not duplicating itself again.
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