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RC Vikings · 05-22-2008, 03:45 PM

While they were growing up I would worry about them becoming rebellious and turning to drugs and alcohol but that hasn't happened. My biggest challenge has been lighting a fire under my youngest son's butt. I try to make him realize that school is important, that the harder he works at his sports the more success that will come his way and that a person can't just cruise through life. He's getting tired of hearing this from his dad but it's driving me crazy.

Surfah · 05-22-2008, 04:15 PM

Not beating the shit out of her.

MikeWaters · 05-22-2008, 04:29 PM

I was a good kid, so I have good karma going for me. A lot of you f-ers on this board were doping spolied ingrates, so we call that around here on planet earth, "bad karma".

Archaea · 05-22-2008, 04:36 PM

Viking has hit the nail on the head.

For my kids, who are basically good kids, lighting a fire under them so that they have enough ambition.

They generally succeed, and the boys are more ambitious than the girls, but none of my kids go the extra mile to get better. The only extra miles run, are with me pushing the kid.

For example, my son wishes to learn languages, but only when I spoon feed him. I remember taking dictionaries, grammars and others to learn them, because nobody in my family could help me. I built a crude, virtually useless proto computer in the seventies.

My kids sit watching mindless tv, or playing X Box. Only when dad gets home and asks about Y, does it get done. So it's almost as if kids have no ambition, no desire. They don't even have the desire to get into trouble, which I experienced quite often.

MikeWaters · 05-22-2008, 04:37 PM

I can't get my son to color. He wants me to color and draw, but he won't.

SoCalCoug · 05-22-2008, 04:48 PM

My 9-yo son's a whiner and sort of weenie-ish. An example: the kids are out playing with water. He squirts our girl (10) with the hose or something and runs away. She gets a bucket and throws water at him, getting his shoes wet. He comes in crying that she got him wet.

We don't coddle him (although my ex-wife did - and she also has a major victim complex, which I'm sure has rubbed off on him), but this is still virtually a daily occurrence. Over and over games that the neighborhood kids are playing end with him running in crying because someone offended him.

It's getting pretty old.

SteelBlue · 05-22-2008, 05:16 PM

14 year old: Easiest kid in the world. Self-motivated re: academics and to this point has kept his nose clean. Has some potential to rebel without me ever realizing it (he reminds me a lot of myself at his age). Toughest challenge with him is that he constantly riles up/teases the younger kids. At times it's enough that I want to beat him but to this point I've refrained.

6 year old: Drama queen. Very reactionary and oldest brother loves to take advantage of that.

3 year old: Keeping him in the house and out of the street. He's very stealthy and adventurous.

1 year old: Sneaks into our bed every night. Has figured out that if she does so past about 2am mom and dad are too tired to put her back.

Flystripper · 05-22-2008, 05:31 PM

I am in the same boat with those that say lack of fire. My oldest is only 7 so there is time to "kick start his heart". Any suggestions?

Archaea · 05-22-2008, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Flystripper

I am in the same boat with those that say lack of fire. My oldest is only 7 so there is time to "kick start his heart". Any suggestions?

Well I've got 19, 17, 14 and 10. In our society, it's tough for them to have fire if you provide a lot.

creekster · 05-22-2008, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Flystripper

I am in the same boat with those that say lack of fire. My oldest is only 7 so there is time to "kick start his heart". Any suggestions?

Arch is on to something here. Don't give them too much. I think it may be that simple (in most cases; YMMV).

05-22-2008, 03:45 PM	#1
RC Vikings Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Rexburg, Idaho Posts: 2,236	What are you major challenges with your kids? While they were growing up I would worry about them becoming rebellious and turning to drugs and alcohol but that hasn't happened. My biggest challenge has been lighting a fire under my youngest son's butt. I try to make him realize that school is important, that the harder he works at his sports the more success that will come his way and that a person can't just cruise through life. He's getting tired of hearing this from his dad but it's driving me crazy. __________________ "I always rode to my limit. If I won by three minutes, that's because I couldn't make four." Eddy Merckx

05-22-2008, 04:15 PM	#2
Surfah Master Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: F'burg, VA Posts: 3,211	Not beating the shit out of her. __________________ Ernie Johnson: "Auburn is a pretty good school. To graduate from there I suppose you really need to work hard and put forth maximum effort." Charles Barkley: "20 pts and 10 rebounds will get you through also!"

05-22-2008, 04:36 PM	#4
Archaea Assistant to the Regional Manager Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: The Orgasmatron Posts: 24,338	Viking has hit the nail on the head. For my kids, who are basically good kids, lighting a fire under them so that they have enough ambition. They generally succeed, and the boys are more ambitious than the girls, but none of my kids go the extra mile to get better. The only extra miles run, are with me pushing the kid. For example, my son wishes to learn languages, but only when I spoon feed him. I remember taking dictionaries, grammars and others to learn them, because nobody in my family could help me. I built a crude, virtually useless proto computer in the seventies. My kids sit watching mindless tv, or playing X Box. Only when dad gets home and asks about Y, does it get done. So it's almost as if kids have no ambition, no desire. They don't even have the desire to get into trouble, which I experienced quite often. __________________ Ἓν οἶδα ὅτι οὐδὲν οἶδα

05-22-2008, 04:48 PM	#6
SoCalCoug Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Orange County, California Posts: 3,059	My 9-yo son's a whiner and sort of weenie-ish. An example: the kids are out playing with water. He squirts our girl (10) with the hose or something and runs away. She gets a bucket and throws water at him, getting his shoes wet. He comes in crying that she got him wet. We don't coddle him (although my ex-wife did - and she also has a major victim complex, which I'm sure has rubbed off on him), but this is still virtually a daily occurrence. Over and over games that the neighborhood kids are playing end with him running in crying because someone offended him. It's getting pretty old. __________________ Get your stinking paws off me, you damned, dirty Yewt! "Now perhaps as I spanked myself screaming out "Kozlowski, say it like you mean it bitch!" might have been out of line, but such was the mood." - Goatnapper "If you want to fatten a pig up to make the pig MORE delicious, you can feed it almost anything. Seriously. The pig is like the car on Back to the Future. You put in garbage, and out comes something magical!" - Cali Coug

05-22-2008, 04:29 PM	#3
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	I was a good kid, so I have good karma going for me. A lot of you f-ers on this board were doping spolied ingrates, so we call that around here on planet earth, "bad karma".

05-22-2008, 04:37 PM	#5
MikeWaters Demiurge Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 36,365	I can't get my son to color. He wants me to color and draw, but he won't.

05-22-2008, 05:16 PM	#7
SteelBlue Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Norcal Posts: 5,821	14 year old: Easiest kid in the world. Self-motivated re: academics and to this point has kept his nose clean. Has some potential to rebel without me ever realizing it (he reminds me a lot of myself at his age). Toughest challenge with him is that he constantly riles up/teases the younger kids. At times it's enough that I want to beat him but to this point I've refrained. 6 year old: Drama queen. Very reactionary and oldest brother loves to take advantage of that. 3 year old: Keeping him in the house and out of the street. He's very stealthy and adventurous. 1 year old: Sneaks into our bed every night. Has figured out that if she does so past about 2am mom and dad are too tired to put her back.

05-22-2008, 05:31 PM	#8
Flystripper Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Valencia CA Posts: 1,384	I am in the same boat with those that say lack of fire. My oldest is only 7 so there is time to "kick start his heart". Any suggestions?