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Originally Posted by Archaea
The fact he wants the "dirt" on her shows a flaw in his character. Why would any counselor assist a person with this character flaw?
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I don't think it's an unreasonable question to ask. If you're going to be shackled to this person for the rest of eternity you have a right to know what kind of emotional baggage is coming along with them. Especially for the guy, girls get all emotionally jacked up when they're sleeping around. I don't think it's anymore inappropriate than asking if someone is suffering from a mental illness.
It's who he's asking that I have a problem with.
What he chooses to do with the information once he has it is entirely up to him, and who am I to judge that decision?
I have a roommate that had a little history, and was dating a a guy that she thought she might marry. She told him about it, because she admitted upfront that she had emotional issues from the experience, and he deserved to know that. Turns out he had more than her though and so nothing ever came of it.