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Originally Posted by jay santos
This is not really something for Indy and Tex to circle the wagons and defend and fight the liberals over. It's a pretty obvious observation of LDS culture.
Every LDS in this church can tell you we're expected to live to a higher standard. In a lot of areas we're successful. It's a natural consequence of that for many LDS to get a big head over it. This goes from the newest member all the way to the top. Maybe it's not a bad thing that we're expected to be better than others without the "true gospel". Christ asks a lot of his disciples. Maybe it's very natural to observe LDS being successful at this and take the next step to say we're better than others. But it does happen. And it does tend to piss other people off.
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To the extent someone does that, I argue they are out of harmony with the gospel.
I don't see this as a "circle the wagons and defend and fight liberals over" issue, by the way.
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Originally Posted by Indy Coug
I would also strongly counsel my kids not to date non-LDS kids, not due to a "we're better than they are" or "they aren't going to get to heaven" attitude, but from 30+ years of observing part-member families and the struggles they have when the non-LDS spouse is not supportive and often is downright antagonistic about their spouse and/or children being active in the church.
That said, living in a place like Pennsylvania, it's a bit impractical to not let my kids go out with non-LDS kids once they are of age.
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I think it's a mistake. Obviously, there's a line here, but I have a sister who dated a non-LDS guy all through high school. He ended up joining the church, serving a mission, marrying in the temple (not to my sis though
), and turning into a fine church member.
I dated a girl in college who was brought into the church by an ex-boyfriend, and a more faithful member you'll never meet.
Of course, there's the flipside ... another college friend (LDS) dated a Catholic guy for months and months, and eventually the relationship had to end because neither could come to terms with the others' faith. It was very hard on her.
We all want our kids to marry in the gospel for all the obvious reasons. But that doesn't mean we can't associate--even date--those who are not. It's part of sharing who we are, and I think we risk the first gray shades of xenophobia if we tell our kids, "No you can't go out with him. He's not Mormon."