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Originally Posted by Zulu451
Just curious, how many daughters do you have and how old are they?
Yeah, to some degree it may be overboard. But that said as a father you have been responsible for the teaching and upbrining of your daughters to this point and you are turning them over to another guy who will be one responsible for leading her family and bringing them back to God.
Sure, it isn't your buisness if the guy struggled with porn in the past. IMO, it is perfectly reasonable to ask them if they are a temple recommend holder. If not, are they working on becoming one? What are their spiritual goals? That is my buisness. I don't need specifics on past sin.
I don't care what color they are, I would prefer if they served a mission but not an absolute. I just want someone for my daughters that will lead and guide their family and get her and my grandkids back to God.
While I disagree with delving into past sins, the concept of having a PPI with the suitor is completely reasonable.
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My daughters are 22 and 20, each nearing their birthdays. It is my job to have parented them so that they make good choices, because by this point it's too late. I trust my daughters' judgment, so the introduction is to establish a good relationship for the future, that's the purpose of the meeting. The PPI is not appropriate and the information you just discussed will already be imparted to me by my daughters.
Both daughters date within the culture of the Church, generally want a man who is well-educated, fit and kind. I've met their boyfriends, both past and present, so I have no reason to invade that space. If I suspected anything, I'd suggest my daughters find out, not me.
The barriers and boundaries this idiot suggests a future father-in-law are inappropriate. By the time a daughter is an adult, I don't protect them like I would a laurel. I protect them by educating them and giving them good judgment and sensitivity to the Spirit, but not be acting asinine toward their fiance.