Stake Conf. Topic: Sexaul Intimacy
The SP was the concluding speaker during the Saturday evening adult only session and his topic was Sexual Intimacy. Difficult for anyone to address this topic in a Church setting. I don't recall all of what he said, but, my take on his remarks is simple, be nice and you will get more action.
Interestingly, he mentioned that this topic will be further addressed in future RS meetings in all wards in the stake, but, no mention was made of following up in the Priesthood meetings. Why the follow up with the RS and not the Priesthood? Any Ideas? |
Yes because men aren't typically the sexual camels in the relationship.
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Don't you think sexual desire (or lack thereof) is fairly deep-rooted? I'm curious to see how helpful a talk in RS will be.
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If it's handled in the sense that lack of sexual desire is a condition that can lead to problems and requires professional help, it may be beneficial. I somehow don't see it going down like that, however.
Maybe I'm being cynical. Wouldn't be the first time. |
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My only suggestion is to take away guilt for having these feelings and encourage adults to understand, even as youth, that it's part of being human. The goal should be to encourage healthy relationships, and a healthy interchange requires healthy relationships. |
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Actually, this brings a recent experience to mind. Since no one knows me here (and DDD is the only one I know...), I think I can share it.
I'm the youngest guy in my group by a good ten years. We have a PA who's about my same age who works with us on the weekends. The other day, during a semi-slow shift, she says, "Can I ask you something? Are there ever times when you're just not in the mood?" We get talking for a little bit, and it turns out that she has not been interested in sex for about the last 18 months. Not once. In fairness, she gave birth about nine months ago, had a fairly rough pregnancy, and her child still doesn't sleep through the night. But she also said that her husband's let himself go, and she's wondering if she should say something to him. I told her to get her kid sleeping through the night, get enough rest, then see where she stands, but if at that point, she still isn't interested, she should say something. I know I'd want to know. Anyway, judging from the guys I see in my ward, I wouldn't be surprised if this is the problem at least some of the time. |
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Problem is the church has always shied away from dealing with the subject and instead used an approach strongly based in guilt mongering...which ends up creating an army of sexual camels with major issues to overcome later on. |
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After all the comments I have read from this group over time on this and simialr topics I find it amusing that you are so quick to be critical of this effort. I applaud the effort and imagine it cannot lead to harm and may lead to benefits. Why not? |
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Proper "intimacy" starts with intimacy of feelings between the membership of a couple. And if teens see it modeled by parents, it would be helpful. And then there should be no embarrassment discussing it, even if discussions are reserved for a rare few. Many within our culture don't know where to get help, and it's sad, very sad. Many marriages could be saved if this issue were addressed more delicately but effectively. It's obviously not the only issue, but it's a major issue. |
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Is that what you all are suggesting would be the topic in RS? |
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Details, details.... |
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Men are told to curb their appetites. And I know it's a gross overgeneralization, but I did ask a counselor once, what percentage of your practice involves male and female frigidity in marriage. Answer a lot. What percentage of it is male and what percentage is female? Answer, only one man in 25 years, the rest, 1000s, female. These were almost exclusively LDS. So obviously our marriage relationships are not fulfilling a significant purpose, attributable in no small part to the difficult to experience meaningful intimacy in our culture. |
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Because sarcasm doesn't always come through on here, and my wife occasionally reads the board, for the record, I did NOT do her. Nor did I have any desire to (do her). Nor her for me (to do her). No doing or being done occurred. Or ever would occur. |
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I will throw in the west wing also....never saw once episode. |
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I appreciate the SP addressing this issue that he desribed being the cause of divorces in our stake. I am just curious about why the follow up with the RS sisters and not the Priesthood bretheren. I will wait for my wife's report after the meeting takes place. |
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And I also wonder what the difference would be with a follow-up with the women. You said the theme was "be nice and you'll get more action" (or something like that). From what I gather, this would probably not be the theme of the lesson to the women. And yet I have trouble imagining it would be "put out more." Anyway, if we believe that LDS marriages need more sex, ironically, maybe we should start counseling people to stop having so many kids. That seems like an extremely common barrier for an active sex life. |
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I'm going to go wayy out on a limb here and suggest that a ten minute pep talk is not going to counteract twenty or forty years of negative messages the church has been sending.
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Yes, I am serious. During his talk the SP repeated several times that this issue is rarely discussed in a Church setting and I agree. Up until Saturday, I don't recall ever receiving messages, counsel, or direction on this subject other than your typical "husbands be considerate of your wives" or the "it is a wonderful thing when expressed between a man and woman in love and married". What negative messages? |
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