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If they're doing their job properly, less missionaries are being sent home because they are filtering out the higher risk missionaries before they ever reach the MTC.
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Has anyone studied any of the older churches, say the Catholics and if a class sytem developed there and what happened. |
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You think that's starting to happen in the LDS church? |
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I've had 3 relatives (1st cousin once removed, great uncle, and great uncle) in the first presidency in the last 30 years. What are the chances of that if I'm not a Mormon aristocrat? :) Indy? |
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Let me give you a recent (April, 2007) example. I have a niece who was serving as a missionary in Guatemala. After serving for six months, she wanted to "clear the slate" and called her MP on the phone to schedule an interview during his upcoming visit for a zone conference. He advised her to discuss the problem on the phone. She confessed a single incidence of petting not disclosed to her Bishop or SP. Thirty minutes after the phone call, the MP called her back and said she was being sent home. No personal visit, no attempt to work with her in the field. She was an outstanding missionary and had recently baptized a family with six children. After returning home in disgrace, she and her family were isolated and shunned by her ward. Her punishment at home was three months of informal probation. No counseling, no arms of fellowship, nothing. Yes, she made a mistake, but the punishment did not fit the crime. Here is the what this mean spirited MP hath wrought: my niece is now attending UC Northridge and is ambivalent towards the Church. Her testimony of the gospel is strong, but she will forever be labeled as a failed missionary. Her parents are not so lucky. They are now separated and in the process of divorcing after a 42 year marriage and seven children. Plain and simple, they could not withstand the isolation and judgements that followed their daughter being sent home. Some may judge that their marriage did not have a strong foundation and the daughter being sent home was merely a tipping point. I think otherwise. Raising the bar without the application of wisdom and forgiveness is a double edged sword. There was not a sin here worthy of either disfellowshipment or excommunication. Another example of the consequences of the misapplication of Church discipline. Unrighteous dominion is pure evil. |
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I'm convinced that the vast majority of general authorities are genuinely good, sincere men who are doing their best, but sometimes make mistakes. |
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However, I see class starting to crop up and Indy, I don't think it is about money, but about who is better. BYU, that is where the churches best and brightest go. Every young man a missionary. The ones that don't go are lesser citizens. For the, I will only marry a RM girls, there status will only go up if they hook one since there will be fewer and they will be more revered. You are a great Mom, but you work. I am a great Mom and stay at home, greater status. I don't know, maybe this is really nothing, because right now when I actually attend church I don't see any stratification of members, it is only when I hear people talk. Yea, I know there is the Celestial, Telestial and Terrestial, however I don't know if we as mortals get to assign our fellow members that status right now. |
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This is why I think a lot of straightening out will be done in the hereafter. |
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When I told her that the bishop was a perv, she got REALLY mad at me. I didn't go out with her again. |
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I've known a few missionaries to come home early in my day. Some weather it and some don't, and as you note, much of their success has to do with the support they receive from those around them. I can think of one relative in particular who returned home after 2 days in the MTC to resolve some chastity issues. He came home "on fire" as they say, reading his scriptures every day, determined to return. He unfortunately did not receive good priesthood support. The brethren around him tragically dropped the ball, were indifferent to his circumstances, and eventually he fell away. His family remains active and he is not hostile to the church, but he has "moved on." He is still young, and we can remain hopeful, but I wonder how much different his life would have been had he received the local support he needed. That being said, I find your story to be a little one-sided. While there are those in any ward who judge and demean someone who returns early, I have not encountered the widespread ostracism you describe ... to the point of destroying someone's marriage. If what you say is really true, then obviously there is a problem with much of the community in which they live. It is without question contrary to the spirit of everything the gospel means. |
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This was my reaction as well. My ward has had a couple fo missionaries return home ealry. My family has had the same thing happen. I have not seen anyone be ostracized from family or from the ward and, to the contrary, in my ward, I think people tend to be very solicitous and try to be helpful. I am sure there are wards where early returnees may feel ostracized, but I do not think it is the norm. |
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To elaborate, I think it's a little ridiculous to assume that real depression/anxiety exist only in people over 21 (or 18, or whatever the cutoff is), although that is the assumption the medical community worked under for years. As soon as you identify a biochemical basis for depression, you also admit it can exist any age. That is being done more and more frequently and appropriately so. The challenge comes in distinguishing normal adolescent angst (or stress of mission field) from pathologic depression, and I think it's occasionally being overdiagnosed. |
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However, there seems to be a tendency that if a kid misbehaves or suffers from some sort of angst, we need to jump to the meds. I'm familiar with entire families where every individual has a panoply of meds by the time he or she is ten. Of course, that is anecdotal, and not useful. |
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Some things are overdiagnosed, but I think giving meds without psychotherapy is a big problem (although this isn't my expertise by a long shot). |
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Him: "A Lot" Her: "not enough" |
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Other end of the spectrum: One of my good friends got a hand job from a member girl on his mission. He felt so bad about it that he called his MP right after, and all the MP did was talk with him and tell him to never do it again. I think it all depends on the MP.
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WHo talks about this stuff? I feel like I'm in an episode of Jerry Springer. |
On the day before he was supposed to return home, one of my former companions confessed to me that he had made out with a girl from the ward a few days earlier and asked my advice on whether he should tell the mission president. I said, "Did you cast your seed?". He told me he didn't, so I said, "Vaya con Dios".
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Crap, on my mission I had a guy in my District admit he was gay. I didn't want to tell him I didn't know what being gay meant, so I just said. That's good Elder, the Lord put us on on this earth to be happy. |
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