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(Im)mutability of cross-gender attraction?
Guys, I've been thinking and thinking, and it occurs to me maybe a sub-issue in this whole gay marriage debate is whether heterosexuality is immutable. Does anybody have any studies about whether dudes choose to like chicks or vice versa? Can we keep this discussion civil and avoid the usual bickering? Thanks in advance. I'm glad there's a place like CG where I can come and share such deep thoughts and debate such murky and fascinating questions.
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This is rather petty, isn't it?
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I do, however, think I make a rather self-evident point. Aren't we, heterosexuals, as well witnesses concerning whether sexual preference is a choice? If not for us, why for gays? Of course, as I've said all along, I don't really think this is a close question that deserves much discussion, partly for this reason. The whole of humans knows the answer. How galling to hate fellow humans for an immutable characteristic. |
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That said, there are clearly some switch hitters out there, but they are even more rare than switch hitters in baseball these days. |
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So I still say that the only question is whether, in the case of gay marriage, there are the reasons, moral or otherwise, to allow it or not allow it. Maybe you can persuade me I am wrong, however. Can you think of some other action which is the result immutable emotion, urge or desire (because it is feelings that define homosexuality and heterosexuality) that we protect or at least do not prohibit solely on that basis? I can't think of anything but there could certainly be something obvious I have overlooked. |
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Actually, I think he brings up a valid point. If gender orientation is natural and immutable, either in the case of heterosexuality or homosexuality, it has serious repercussions in the discussion over same sex marriage.
SU may not think it deserves close attention, but the American Psychological Association apparently disagrees, as do those hateful Evangelical hacks in the Log Cabin Republicans and the right wing fringe fanatics at Mother Jones. |
And by the way . . . still waiting on your explanation as to why hundreds of gays insist that their orientation was their own choice.
http://cougarguard.com/forum/showpos...&postcount=143 |
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That some gays choose their orientation does not mean that others do not. It proves nothing except that some gays choose their orientation. SU's point has the most logical coherence b/c he raises the discussion to the general level of sexuality, instead of going down one layer to hetero- and homo-. And so from that level, if heterosexuals do not choose their orientation, why is it not likely that homosexuals do not choose theirs either? |
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Let's use your figure of "hundreds" and call that 999 persons. The proportion of gay persons whose orientation would be their own choice, in this scenario is 0.00000504 which is 0.000504%. So let's get this straight, you are demanding an explanation about the 0.000504% of gays that chose their own orientation? If you don't like these numbers, present your own, and we can discuss the differences. |
I'm surprised that women can be attracted to men, let alone men. I'm positive that if I was a girl I would be gay.
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Thank you. |
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What's your mission here, AA. To convince us that sexual preference is hopeless? To convince us that it's a real live issue? On either count, forget it. Go to an evangelical site.
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To be perfectly honest, I am not trying to convince anybody of anything, except that the convictions that many of us on BOTH sides of the fence hold may not square away with what scientists, psychologists, and research are suggesting. I am asking people here to reference what they can of that body of information, to address it, and make whatever reconciliations of their world view might be necessary as a result. |
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SU, I'm just wondering what the total dollar amount is that you plan to bill your clients for the time spent creating this thread, and reading and adding additional responses, while concurrently "working on their cases."
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SU, however, is as intransigent as they come. |
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So I'm dropping the sword on this one and asking, in all sincerity, what's going on? |
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At any rate, mutability is important to the issue because it addresses the point of what becomes of gays if homosexual activity is deemed detrimental to society (whether such a determination is correct or not). What recourse is left to those who are denied full expression of what they feel is a significant part of who they are? Does it mean that some who would have been gay if society had allowed it would not be? For how many would such be impossible? Are they then to live out an ascetic existence? And what is the cost to society of any of the above? |
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Do you honestly think you could live a life of celibacy, live as a bachelor and have no children? How would you respond to coersion from authorities that you had to take a gay lover? |
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But we should not forget that in California, where the prop 8 debate is taking place, the issue is NOT whether gays can live together, adopt children, have sex, enter civil unions, be romantically connected, receive insurance beneifts, etc., as those are all allowed whether or not prop 8 passes or fails. The only issue is whether their union is deemed a marriage.
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if the issue is purely semantics, why is everyone freaking out about the end of the world, indoctrination of our youth, and the weakening of democracy? changing the definition of one word will result in all the things being alleged? maybe I am misunderstanding your statement. |
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